tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7834981943234246322.post5999705304165158624..comments2010-08-31T06:54:40.839-07:00Comments on My Two Cents: "Hi, my friend told me about this blog and I was wondering if you can help me out. I am feeling so bad right now and I just need to know if this is ok? A lot of the women in my loss group are now expecting another baby (rainbow) and I just don't want to be selfish, but I really don't want to hear all the details. I mean she lost a baby too, so she deserves this baby. But it doesn't make me any less sensitive to all the details. I want support when I have a rainbow, but right now I am not on that path. What do I tell her without making her think I am jealous? I feel like she should already know that this hurts. I feel like I am having to explain myself to someone who never lost a baby. Please!! HELP!!" Thank you, KristineAntoinettehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16345208031210597597noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7834981943234246322.post-90004497463816963892010-08-15T08:53:28.392-07:002010-08-15T08:53:28.392-07:00ann's answer is a very good one. I know when I...ann's answer is a very good one. I know when I first lost Jordan I didnt like to see, hear or talk about other babies. with the months to come it got a bit easier but thats not always the case with each BLM, as each person is different. I would feel jelous and would envy them but would sit and bear it. but sometimes it was too much.<br /><br />I know how you feel completely.<br /><br />but now that I am pregnant with a rainbow. I do find myself sharing details on facebook. and I do have alot of friends on FB who are BLMs as well. when I do post comments I often immediatley hope and pray that I didnt hurt anyones feelings, because those are not my intentions. I feel like I have more support from my BLMs because they know the fear I have, or can imagine the fear I have with rainbow more then any other mommy can. so I love having my BLMS to lean on for support and comfort during my times of worries.<br /><br />BUT if I were to get a IM or a messege from a BLM explaining to me that what Im saying is too much for them, I would do my best to talk with them, and not hurt them. though hurting someone else is NEVER my intention. but as I said, I have been there before so I know the jelousy I know the pain. so I understand.<br /><br />so my best advice is to talk to this person. explain how you feel,and if you two cant come to an understanding or if she cant respect your feelings maybe you should reevaluate (sp?) your relationship with this person.<br /><br /><br />and if its on facebook (I dont know if it is or not) but there is a way to hide some peoples posts so that you are not updated with their status' everyday without deleting them.<br /><br />I know i have had to do that with a few peopleMissingYouAlwayshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03621625659635254849noreply@blogger.com