Thursday, July 15, 2010

Just giving my two cents....

Ok here we go!! This is my VERY FIRST advice column. I am hoping to help all of you as others have helped me. I find a lot of the time that people are asking me for help and I really feel good when I do help someone with their grief. But please do not limit yourself to just talking about your journeys. Ask me anything and I will give my full opinion on the matter. I will answer you as a friend. Please remember that I am VERY honest with my answers and sometimes the truth can hurt. I am in no way intending on hurting anyone's feelings. I simply want to help you out when you feel like you have no where to turn. I am feeling like this now, and who better than a person who is going through it to help you. We can help each other =)

Here are the rules...Simply leave your question in the comment box or if you prefer to remain anonymous just email me at and I will answer your question in the following post. If you wish for your name to not be mentioned it will not be mentioned...other wise, feel free to ask away right here!!

I really hope this blog becomes a place people can feel safe coming to. I would love it if you mentioned this page on your blog as well. I will have a give away after we reach our first 50 followers.


  1. 4 COMMENTS:

    Michelle said...
    Oh, I am so sorry you lost your Alyssa. Thanks for inviting me to come over and read your story. I never looked up the "phantom kicks" in fact I never told anyone that I felt them, I thought I might be,glad you shared that. Hugs to you.

    MARCH 16, 2010 3:48 AM
    klarsen said...
    I am so very very sorry you lost your sweet beautiful little girl. It is almost six months now since I lost my daughter Hannah. Know that it is not your fault. Had you known would you not have chosen to do something? Of course you would have. I blamed myself, too. I was 18w4d and my water broke due to infection, forcing my daughter into a world she was too little to survive in. I spent countless hours of anger pointing at myself, why couldn't you protect her? It was my body not her. But it will just tear you apart. You will, I will, never have these answers.

    I'm sending you lots of love and hugs. Know I will be praying for you.
    xxx Katy

    MARCH 17, 2010 10:27 PM
    Angel's Mummy said...
    Oh honey i am so sorry for your loss and i can relate to everything thst you have written and everything that you are feeling. I lost my little girl in dec and the pain is as raw now as it was afew months back... i too still have phantom kicks and sometimes when i wake in the morning i forget whats happened..2 seconds after i remember that she's gone.
    many hugs to you xx
    Angel's Mummy

    MARCH 20, 2010 6:11 AM
    Sandy said...
    I am deeply sorry for your loss. Words really don't help (I know...) but I want you to know I am thinking about you and praying for you.

    MARCH 24, 2010 6:31 PM

  2. Am I the first to ask for advice? Well, here goes. What is one thing that you do (or try to do) to be a good wife? Most of the time, I forget that marriage is hard actually have to make a conscious effort to be good at it. So, is there something you do to make it work?? Thanks Ann!!!

  3. Hi Ann!
    My loss is about a month old, but all I can think about to pull myself through is having another baby. My husband is mostly on board (I think to make me happy). He is scared of a repeat loss. I don't think I am doing this to replace my angel, but I just don't know. I feel somehow guilty. Our angel was not planned, but he made me realize how much was missing in my life. Do you think it's healthy? Did you think about having another almost immediately?